Struggling Vs. Surrendering

Some phrases just get under my skin. One of the most common phrases I hear in Christian circles is, “I’m struggling with…”… then they fill in the blank related to a persistent sin.

“I’m struggling with jealousy.”
“I’m struggling with pornography.”
“I struggle with gambling.”


Now Entering the Content Zone

My daughter and I have a ritual lately. We spend some of our father-daughter time watching, interpreting and discussing episodes of the original “Twilight Zone” series. I loved watching them when I was a kid, and my daughter is finding the same joy in watching them. We both bask in the pride of being Twilight Zone nerds and will debate whether “Eye of the Beholder” or “The Hitchhiker” should be voted as the best episode ever.

Even the most casual Twilight Zone fans are familiar with the episode called, “To Serve Man.” The title is a play on the verb serve, which has a dual meaning of “to assist” and “to provide as a meal.” The episode is one of the few instances in the series where an actor breaks a fourth wall (nerd talk, I know) and addresses the viewing audience at the episode’s end. The episode, along with the line, “It’s a cookbook!” have become elements in pop culture.

After watching this episode again with my daughter, I began to think of the duality of the word “serve,” as it relates to our engagement with Christ. It’s also the foundational catalyst for the formation of the Holy Discontent Motorcycle Ministry – pursuing the art of getting off of our butts. God wants us to assist others in service to Him. He doesn’t want us just being fed. God is not here to serve man. We’re here to serve God. Too many of us are only being served – and the facts prove it.

Research shows that approximately 1 in 5 active churchgoers have served within their church during the past year (Thuma & Bird.) When I refer to active churchgoers, this means the congregation that regularly shows up for services. I’m not including the additional, and significant population of those who are the “Christmas and Easter” Christians.

Only 20% of Christians serve in their church in some capacity. We could, and should, be doing better. Before the emails come in, I do realize that some participate in ministries outside their own church. However, does that account for the entire dormant 80%? I’ll be uncomfortably generous and say that additional 20% regularly serve in ministries outside the church. Even by grading on the ridiculously generous curve, we have a ton of work to do. That’s not coming from me – it’s coming from God’s Word:

“What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can faith save him? If a brother or sister is naked and destitute of daily food, and one of you says to them, ‘Depart in peace, be warmed and filled,’ but you do not give them the things which are needed for the body, what does it profit? Thus also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.”
– James 2: 14-17

Are you only being served? Or are you serving, too?

Here’s another disturbing fact. The reputable “State of Plate,” which is funded by Christianity Today and the Evangelical Christian Credit union, have released studies that show only 7.4% of active churchgoers are tithing regularly.

It’s worth repeating – 7.4% of active Christian churchgoers are tithing, and obeying God’s directives regularly.

Although Jesus demands it, it’s unrealistic that 100% of Christians will both tithe and serve. However, imagine what the impact on the world would be if we had 50% of active Christian churchgoers both regularly serving and tithing.

Before forwarding that Facebook post about how America is suffering because we’re slowly becoming a secular nation, ask yourself what you personally are doing to change that. Ask yourself if you’re serving, or if you’re just being served.


Brandon Moser is the President & CEO of the Holy Discontent Motorcycle Ministry ( He is currently completing his 
doctoral studies in Christian counseling and divinity.


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Share Your Faith by Walking Like An Egyptian

In February, I was blessed to spend a week in Cairo, Egypt. During my time in the Middle East, I had wonderful conversations with Christian men and women who spread the word of Jesus throughout an environment that isn’t conducive to doing so.

Christians in Egypt are facing unprecedented levels of persecution. Don’t take that word lightly — the meaning of the word “persecution” has been severely diluted in the United States with inaccurate and exaggerated politically driven narratives.

Per the Open Doors 2018 World Watch List, Egypt ranks two spots behind Syria on the list of the most dangerous countries in the world to follow Jesus. The U.S. doesn’t even make the top 50. There is simply no comparison between the perceived, and often dramatic, Christian claims of persecution in the United States versus the reality of the Middle East.

In 2017, 128 Christians were killed in Egypt for their faith and more than 200 were driven out of their homes in 2017. The rise in persecution is attributed to the overspill of Islamic terrorists driven out of Iraq and Syria. “There is only a small amount of violent extremists, but the culture in Egypt clings to the perception that Christians are infidels,” one Egyptian Christian said to me during my visit to Cairo.

However, the response of the Christian community has been one of endurance, prayer and forgiveness. Christians in Egypt face a barrage of discrimination and intimidation, yet they refuse to give up their faith. I found that that the Middle Eastern Christians are more eager to share their faith, even under the constant danger of persecution, or at least, discrimination. They have developed an art of sharing the word of Jesus by not being too overbearing but letting others see Christ in them first.

On the 24-hour plane ride back to the U.S., I was overcome with a sense of personal guilt. In America, we have the freedom to share our faith with anyone without risking our lives or our families’ lives. Do we use that freedom to spread God’s Word as often as we should? Do we do it as much as Egyptian Christians, who are endangering themselves by doing so? By comparison to my new friends in the Middle East, my answer would be a resounding “no.”

How to Share Your Faith Like an Egyptian

  • Listen More. One of the most important, and most neglected, aspects of communicating with others is effective listening. The apostle Paul encouraged Christians to “carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ” (Galatians 6:2). To share each other’s burdens, we need to know what those burdens are. Often, those who are suffering are most receptive to seeking a closer relationship with God. But they need to feel comfortable discussing their problems with you, otherwise, they won’t. When people are expressing their feelings, they appreciate being heard. If you are a good listener, they will talk to you. That gives you an opportunity to respond.
  • Respond with Christ-Centric Answers. You don’t have to knock on doors and articulate the message of salvation with the fiery passion and prose of a cheesy televangelist. That approach is rarely effective, and it certainly doesn’t work in the Middle East. As you listen to others, respond to them with answers that show that Jesus is a part of you. Whether it’s talking about how excited you are about going to your church this weekend, how God has blessed you, or sharing about your flaws and how you’ve found forgiveness and redemption through Christ. It’s usually not difficult to sprinkle in your love of Jesus when the conversation is natural and comfortable.
  • Love Instead of Judge. This is a tough one — especially with the current climate in the United States. The apostle Paul said not to offend each other. “Let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother’s way” (Romans 14:13). One of the quickest ways to turn people off is to be judgmental, whether it’s in person or on social media. Who wants to talk to someone who, when you express some belief you have, self-righteously condemns you for your weakness in the faith, plus a general lack of good sense? Instead, may we resist the powerful urge to determine who is good and who is evil, who is in and who is out, and who is worthy of our self-sacrificial love and who is not, based on a perception or label. Instead, may we strive to see them – as difficult as it may be at times – the way God sees them.
Brandon Moser is the President & CEO of the Holy Discontent Motorcycle Ministry ( He is currently completing his doctoral studies in Christian counseling and divinity.
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The Unfriendly Assault of Unfriending

I’ll admit it. I can’t stand Facebook and Twitter. I’d probably despise Instagram and Snapchat if I ever bothered fully embracing them. However, as I prove by posting this, social media has become necessary in both our careers and personal life.

There are a lot of positive aspects that social media brings to our relationships. But there’s another side to all of this. Just as much as Facebook can amplify the positive of our offline relationships, it has also brought a way to completely end relationships once and for all in a very clear and public way through unfriending. With the simple click of a button we can signal that we no longer want someone in our lives.


Stop Reading The Labels

We label before we understand. We disregard before we listen. Some have lost the ability to see others as individuals rather than quickly placing them in a stereotype box and treating them as that stereotype instead of a human being. This problem has not only has divided the country, but fractured the church.


Love Without Casting Stones

As Christians, one of our main goals in life should be to love the people we have contact with. This is a foundational pillar of the Holy Discontent Motorcycle Ministry. Most the time, our members are not spending the majority of their time in safe, traditional Christian circles. We spend time with prison inmates, spousal & child abusers, and substance abusers. We befriend members and leaders of motorcycle clubs and “one-percenters.” What we often find is amazing, beautiful, kind and generous people who are sinners just like us. Yet they’ve been labeled and discarded by society, and oftentimes, the Christian community. Our ministry wouldn’t be successful if our approach was judgement-driven rather than fueled by an unconditional love for others.
There is a reason why the members of our ministry wear the brown “Dirty Cut” rather than 
traditional black biker vests.  It’s a daily reminder to us that we all came from the same dirt, as it says in Genesis 2:7. Whether we’re rich or poor, a pastor or a prisoner, a Republican or Democrat – we’re all sinners in God’s eyes. The more we remind ourselves of how God loves us despite our own major flaws, we’ll be better equipped to approach others with love instead of condemnation.

Love should be the hallmark of our relationships with others. Yet, that’s oftentimes not the first impression others get. Like it or not, we live in a culture that uses labels to help us identify things. Sometimes this can be very helpful to navigate us through everyday life. However, when it comes to labels of Christians, there’s a real danger that we should all be aware of: judging. The sinful desire to judge others is at the heart and soul of a fallen human condition because none of us can justly and correctly judge someone else. However, like any habit, we have a difficult time breaking ourselves from it.

And so, we judge. We determine who is in and who is out. Who is good, and who is evil.  Who is worthy of our self-sacrificial love, and who is not.

On any given day I may be on the giving end of this type of judging, or on the receiving end — as are you. Such is the overwhelming power of the desire to judge others. The biblical prohibition on judging exists because that is singularly God’s job, and he will do it not by judging by external matters, but by judging what is unseen – the heart (1 Sam 16:7). The content of an individual’s heart is something we are not able to see and is off limits except to God himself.

I’ve had Christians tell me before that I was going to hell. When I’ve asked why, they’ve replied it is because I didn’t vote for the political platform they’ve deemed as Christian. I was no longer in the ministry in their eyes – I was labeled a “Liberal.” They’ve told me that I’ve not been hard enough on judging those who have abortions, or the LGBTQ community. I’ve been told, because of my tattoos, that I don’t physically represent what a minister should look like. They’ve told me that <sigh>, I shouldn’t keep company with sinners. Some have put significant time in judging why I am not worthy of God’s grace and eternal life. They use broad labels and generalizations so that can be used to reduce me, judge me, and condemn me to hell.

This judgement flows in reverse as well. The sinful desire to judge others isn’t something that only conservatives do. The non-believer’s perceptions of the words “Christian” and “evangelical” have suffered over the last decade – some fair, and some not. These words have been partially hi-jacked and used for political currency, along with us failing to resist the temptation of labeling and judging others. The arrow of judgement and labeling soars both ways.  

And so, my prayer for us, including myself who constantly falls prey to sin — is that when we see a person and begin to feel the string to our bow pulling back to let judgement’s arrow fly, we’ll remember how functionally worthless a Christian label is when it used it to judge what only God can judge – the human heart.

Instead, may we resist the powerful urge to determine who is good and who is evil, who is in and who is out, and who is worthy of our self-sacrificial love and who is not, based on a label. Instead, may we strive to see them – as difficult as it may be at times – the way God sees them.

  • As someone who was created in his image and likeness.
  • As someone who is loved beyond our comprehension.
  • As someone Christ gave his life for.
  • As someone Jesus explicitly told us to love without judgement.
Brandon Moser is the President & CEO of the Holy Discontent Motorcycle Ministry ( He is currently completing hisdoctoral studies in Christian counseling and divinity.
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Protecting Your Family from Family

I’ll admit it. If someone hurts my wife or children, even if the assaulter is extended family, my initial response usually isn’t how Jesus would want me to respond. By those initial emotionally-charged responses, you’d never suspect that I’m in the ministry and an emerging Christian counselor. There have been times where I’ve unleashed a fury of vengeful words, knowing I’d need to ask for God’s grace and forgiveness later. While I’m not proud of that, ignoring my shortcomings in this area would be disingenuous.

Most men, including myself, feel it is their duty to protect their immediate families from physical and emotional harm. Our instincts are to launch a “shock and awe” campaign to protect those we love. Often, the assaulters are not strangers on the street, but extended family members. If clear and healthy boundaries have not been established and agreed to, once-beloved family members can oftentimes become adversarial and damage the dynamics of your immediate family – including your marriage. The dilemma for Christians arises in trying to determine the balance between protecting our immediate family, honoring our extended family, and responding in a way that honors God.

Remember Paul’s admonition in Romans 12:18, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone”. Per Barney’s Notes on the Bible (Andrew Barney is well-known American theologian), this verse means:

  • We are to do our utmost endeavors to preserve peace, and to appease the anger and malice of others.
  • We are not to “begin” or to “originate” a quarrel.


We are to seek peace. But then it does not always depend on us. Seeking peace often means backing away from some family members that are toxic and damaging your family and/or marriage. As we try to seek peace, others may oppose us; they may slander, disparage, and emotionally injure us; or they may try to manipulate and control us. While we are to seek peace, 

it doesn’t mean we have to submit to continual harm to our family members, spouse and ourselves. Peace often has to be defined as the increased peace we find in our own homes by backing away from toxic family members. Our duty is to forgive and to resist the temptation of repaying evil for evil:

Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited. Do not repay anyone evil for evil…” – Romans 12:16-17.

These are all easier said than done! I have sometimes failed in this area, especially with those who insult my wife or our children, or those who spread vicious lies about us. Within the last year, we’ve had extended family insult my daughter with a vicious comment about her physical attributes, publicly lie about the dynamics of our marriage, question our faith in God, meddle in our financial affairs and spread hateful lies about us. It hurts my wife and I deeply and has left scars that may be difficult to heal. It’s challenging to resist unleashing a furious response. Nevertheless, these verses are clear: God wants us to relate to people with a lot of humility, as well as with the same grace and mercy that He Himself demonstrated toward us.

Second, remember the “leave and cleave” principle: “For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife” (Genesis 2:24). When we get married, our spouse comes before any other family members. You both must do everything you can to protect your marriage. Your spouse must do everything they can to love you, build you up, and take care of you and your children.
Unless there is a risk of exposing yourself and your children to a continued pattern of physical or emotional abuse, it’s important to keep the doors to those relationships unlocked. In considering whether you must attend family events or stay in contact with them, you should be sensitive to what is in the best interest of your spouse and kids. If the chances are high that you and/or your family is going to be the recipient of continued verbal abuse, even if it’s wrapped in sarcasm or a joke, its best to consider whether it’s fair to subject yourselves to those subtle assaults. You should be resolute in not allowing their underlying issues that are driving their poor behavior to become your problem. Being empathetic to their personal demons does not have to come at the emotional and spiritual expense of you or your immediate family. You can close the door on the relationship, but don’t lock it. God has an amazing way of softening hearts, changing behaviors transforming relationships. If you lock that door permanently, you will not be able to give them the opportunity to hear and see Christ’s love in you, while also depriving your children of knowing their extended families.
Brandon Moser is the President & CEO of the Holy Discontent Motorcycle Ministry ( He is currently completing his doctoral studies in Christian counseling and divinity.
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Listen Up! The Easiest Way to Improve Most Aspects of Your Life

Most think they are good listeners. Some of them think they are such good listeners that they can’t shut up about it. Dale Carnegie, in the inspiring How To Win Friends and Influence People embraced listening skills, coupled with deep and genuine questions, as the means to get along in life.


Do You Have a Budget For Your Words?

“Speak in such a way that others love to listen to you. Listen in such a way that others love to speak to you.” – Anonymous

We sometimes don’t have to go further than our own Thanksgiving table to see how we’ve become a society who lacks the ability to listen to others.


The Subtle Art of Doing Nothing

Do you want to find some of that all-to-elusive peace of mind? How about improvements in your relationships, career and overall happiness? There’s something that can help. The solution is to do nothing. Yes, nothing. Slacking off may be the best thing we can do for our mental health, our families and our relationship with God. Without quieting our mind and taking time to recharge our mental and physical engines, we become a diluted version of ourselves to everyone around us. Yet most see inactivity as a weakness, not a strength. 


Creating Positive Peer Pressure for our Kids

 I spent most my childhood in the church. If there was a church activity, I was there. Whether it was the myriad of Bible studies, Sunday services (both morning and evening), Monday outreach, Wednesday night youth services or Friday night fellowship, I was there. I sang in the choir, I was a perennial shepherd boy in the Christmas and Easter plays, played on the church sports teams, attended every church camp my family could afford and I eventually became a Youth Deacon.