Domestic violence is narrowly defined as an act or threatened act of violence upon someone with whom the perpetrator is or has previously been in an intimate relationship. The term “domestic violence” often brings to mind the concept of the “battered wife” or perhaps a married couple’s verbal argument escalating into physical assault. Domestic violence is also commonly linked to child abuse. Even if the children are not physically injured, watching or hearing a parent being abused can have severe psychological implications.


Breaking the Cycle of Violence
Domestic abuse can be viewed in the terms of a “cycle of violence.” Tension builds: the victim attempts to keep the abuser mollified; but, eventually, an incident occurs. The abuser apologizes and attempts to make it up to the victim, perhaps by promising it will never occur again or by lavishing the victim with gifts. Then comes a period of calm before the tension begins to build again. The stages of this cycle may take only minutes or may develop over years. Without intervention, the periods of “making up” and “calm” rarely disappear on their own. While most charities and ministries work solely with the victims, we also focus on the abuser to try to break the cycle of violence within themselves and their families.

God’s Plan for Families
Domestic violence is in stark opposition to God’s plan for families. Ephesians 5:22-24 explains a wife’s submissiveness to her husband, while verses 25-33 talk about a husband’s self-sacrificial love for his wife. Domestic violence involving children is also condemned by God. God entrusts parents with children, and those parents are to lovingly care for them. Ephesians 6:4 says, “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” Children are to obey their parents (Ephesians 6:1-3), and discipline is important. But discipline is distinctly different than violence and abuse, which 
 is a far cry from the character of Jesus.


Abuser and Victim Interventions
Holy Discontent doesn’t have a cookie-cutter approach. Every intervention is different. Sometimes it’s escorting a moving a battered woman and child to a safe place. Occasionally we partner with outside community agencies to mobilize their efforts. Other times, we have friendly, empathetic conversations with the abuser to help resolve underlying issues that have led them to become abusive. Sometimes, it’s just showing an abused woman or a bullied child that some big, hairy, tough-looking bikers have their back. God’s desire for those involved with domestic violence – both victims and abusers – is healing and wholeness, Holy Discontent is here to help fulfill His desire.